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AJ Van Wie reviewed Glens Falls Karate Academy
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The adult Karate and kickboxing classes have been a great addition to my weekly routine. I am learning self-defense as well as meeting great people and gaining confidence while getting into great physical condition. Sensei Murphy is a knowledgeable instructor and explains things well while demonstrating techniques. I highly recommend Glens Falls Karate Academy.

Alicia Macier reviewed Glens Falls Karate Academy
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The adult class is a really great and supportive group to learn with! Not only is Sensei Murphy awesome, but the other dojo members really go out of their way to make it a welcoming atmosphere. The self defense part of the training is my favorite! Having the ability to dissect the moves and practice them weekly makes me feel more confident in my everyday life.

Jocelyn Lawrence reviewed Glens Falls Karate Academy
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Our son goes to Glens Falls Karate Academy. They are very welcoming and have a great program. The Sensei is amazing with children!

Krista Clements reviewed Glens Falls Karate Academy
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I love classes at Glens Falls Karate Academy! We're one big family who help each other succeed! Sensei Chris Murphy and Senpai Joe Traina are excellent teachers! They are thorough in their training and have a passion to share their love of karate with their students!

Tina Sackman reviewed Glens Falls Karate Academy
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Sensei Murphy is patient and encouraging. He is sincere and giving of his time.
Karate is such an incredible sport. It teaches you control, focus, & balance - physically and mentally. It stimulates your mind because you have to think about the strategies. What's interesting about this sport is that it is more about the skills and the techniques and applying them correctly, than your physical size.

Wanda Dutcher Sowizdrzal reviewed Glens Falls Karate Academy
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I've have known Chris Murphy for several years and he is a wonderful man. His teaching style not only teaches the art of Karate, but he teaches the children pride, respect of self and others and hard work.

Kate Austin-Avon reviewed Glens Falls Karate Academy
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Chris really knows his stuff, and is such a nice guy too. He's a great teacher! We are lucky to have him in our community.

Danielle Volks reviewed Glens Falls Karate Academy
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We love karate, Sensei and Miss Stacey. What a wonderful program to be a part of. My son looks forward to karate each week.

Koda Orion Taylor reviewed Glens Falls Karate Academy
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I'm in the Tuesday/Thursday adult class and I love it can't wait to continue learning I always look forward to the next class

Jim Peterson reviewed Glens Falls Karate Academy
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Had the pleasure of giving a seminar there this weekend....Sensei Murphy should be very proud. He runs a top notch school with a bunch of talented students. I am very proud to have him represent us as his governing organization.
Shihan Jim Peterson
8th Degree Black Belt
Vice President of the Goshin Ryu Karate Assn.

Stephen Leather reviewed Glens Falls Karate Academy
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I had my first lesson in Goshin Ryu Karate on 1/12/2015. Even though I have a martial arts background myself in both Jiu-Jitsu and Tae Kwon Do, I found Sensei Murphy's class to be fantastic. It was amazing to work on my sparring skills with such a knowledgeable instructor as him. I am very much looking forward to continuing my training with him.

Pam Fisher reviewed Glens Falls Karate Academy
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My son was looking for a new athletic activity this past Spring and decided to try karate. I couldn't be happier with Glens Falls Karate Academy, and the positive influence Sensei Murphy has had on my son. It's a great program for athletes of all abilities. Great place!

Nikki Hoague reviewed Glens Falls Karate Academy
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My daughter has been a student here for years and I would highly recommend this school to anyome looking to learn new martial arts and not be like every other martial arts school in the area! Chris is a great teacher and leader to these kids. They offer adult classes too, Come try a class and make your own opinion.

Heather Richards reviewed Glens Falls Karate Academy
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My daughter started a few months ago and has enjoyed the challenges, friendships, structure, community and education that sensei Chris Murphy provides. There is never a moment she isn't excited to go to class! As a parent I have noticed the difference in my child's focus, attitude and confidence not only about herself but in what she is doing as well!! Thank you sensei!!!

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Parent Skill | ATTUNEMENT

Do you ever feel like you can read your kids mind?

You know what they are going to do or say next because they have had the same reaction before? This is attunement. Improving your attunement skills will allow you to create a more patient and understanding relationship with your kids.

  1. Leveraging Attunement to Modify Your Kids Behavior:
    Be attuned to your kids anxieties and try a creative approach that allows them to focus on positive behaviors and interactions instead of their anxieties or stresses.

    If you are attuned to the fact that your kids have anxiety about going to school in the morning, for instance, helping them relieve their stress by adding some interactive play time with them before school is a powerful way to help them shift their mindset. This helps boost their endorphins, so they feel good and less stressed. Allowing them to run on more positive energy in the morning creates a positive and consistent change in their behavior throughout the day.

  2. Wait for the Right time
    Applying patience is an attunement-builder because when you understand your kids moods you can eliminate some of the common struggles you have with them.

    If your kids wake up happy most mornings, but grumpy after naps on the weekend (like me!), you are already attuned to expect that behavior. It might be better to wait, or to be patient, until they feel a little less grumpy to talk to them or ask them to do something. You will get better results that way, and they will be less grumpy when they respond.

  3. Understand Your Child’s Stage of Development
    Being attuned to your kids stages of development will probably break some of the assumptions that you have about them, which will improve your relationship and understanding of them.

    When you ask a 3 to 4 year old to sit on the floor … they seem to roll around a lot. Are they not paying attention? Chances are that part of their behavior is due to their physical stage of development. Physically, it is uncomfortable in their core muscles to sit on the floor for long without rolling back.Similarly, teens and pre-teens seem lazy! They look like they don’t have enough energy to take the trash out after watching a movie. What’s really going on here? Research shows that they are literally physically, scientifically exhausted. Their body and brain are changing from kid versions to adult versions, which makes them seem less than smart and overly lazy.

    By being attuned to their stages of development, you can communicate better with them knowing what to expect and why.

  4. Anticipate Language Barriers
    Being attuned to your kids development in language skills will help you understand their responses and reactions, and not get frustrated if they only respond to bits and pieces of what you ask. If you learned a foreign language for only a few years and heard a conversation among fluent speakers, would you understand it completely, or only be able to pick out a word, phrase or general topic here and there?

    If several kids hear, “Molly, can you come here” it is possible that several of them will come running instead of just Molly. That’s because they only heard the instructional phrase and not necessarily the name. Kids apply the only language skills that they have at their age of development, which for a 3 to 4 year-old is only 3 or 4 years!

  5. Practice Response Flexibility
    Probably the best thing you can do to improve your reactions as a parent is to practice response flexibility. This means being flexible with your kids moods and deciding what must be finished immediately, and what can wait. Or, realizing that it is not necessary to be harsh every time something bad happens.

    When my daughter was younger (every parent has experienced this, I’m positive) she decided it was a good idea to do a flip on top of me when I was on the couch and busted my nose. Instead of yelling at her, I used response flexibility and kept my reaction in perspective because I know that she didn’t do it on purpose. She was playing, and I had to keep that in perspective. Explaining what happened to them and using it as a teaching moment is a more responsible way to respond using response flexibility.

Attunement all comes down to how well you know your kids and their moods, and how well you know yourself. Start thinking about how you can help your kids learn and use the right behaviors by being more attuned to their development, behaviors, language skills and mood, and most importantly, try to practice response flexibility when the unexpected happens. Sometimes your kids will learn more from how you respond than from what you say.